Separation is something nobody wants to think about but if it does happen, you need to make sure you have a “team” supporting you through the process. The five people I recommend to help you through the process are:-
- Family Lawyer
Having a family lawyer who knows the process inside and out can help you on the right path. It might seem daunting contacting a lawyer as soon as you separate, but it can save you a lot of heartache in the long run. It is helpful to have somebody looking after the legal matters so you can concentrate on the emotional “stuff”. A family lawyer can help you initially decide on how to leave, what to take with you, what to do with the children and how the property might be divided. We offer initial consultations at a reduced rate and urge you to make contact sooner rather than later.
- Financial advisor / Accountant
Often an accountant has dealt with both parties of the relationship and is trusted by both. They can prove useful in helping broker a deal as they know how your financial structure or business works. Accountants are also helpful in understanding the best tax effective way of dividing assets or companies. It may be that you are unsure of what assets you and your partner have so by talking to your accountant, they can inform you what does exist. A financial advisor is useful in advising you what assets to retain that would be helpful to your stage of life, for example, do you take cash, superannuation or property? If you receive a cash payout, it may be in your best interests to invest the funds or buy property rather than just leave in a bank account.
- Friends / Family
It’s important to have a supportive friend / family base. You need people who are going to care for you and help you out when you need it. With friends, be careful they aren’t imposing their thoughts on to you and clouding what you believe. Choose friends and family that are there to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on when you need it. Listen to their advice but still do what is best for you.
Whilst it is good to have a support network of friends and family, sometimes they aren’t equipped to deal with the emotional “stuff” like you need them to. Having an experienced counsellor on hand to help you through the pain is going to help you come out the other end. You need somebody who can listen with an unbiased opinion and offer solutions for yourself and/or your children. It is crucial to getting through your family law matter to look after yourself so you can deal with what is going on.
- Exercise buddy
Exercise makes us happy – it releases endorphins and you need these! I find that exercise is much more enjoyable when you have someone to go with or who can hold you accountable if you have to meet them for a class. Boxing is great exercise at any time but during a separation it can help get your frustration out!
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